I have a family member who hasn't spoken to me in more than two years.
It's one of the saddest, most gut wrenching things that I've ever experienced. Possibly THE most. But, like with pretty much ALL difficult things, I've learned an awful lot from this pain. Primarily, I've learned that we can't make someone like us, even if that's what we want more than anything. If someone doesn't want to like us, they will find a reason. No one is perfect, and we provide lots of reasons not to like us. If someone is looking for the bad it's not going to be too hard to find.
Everyone has flaws. Everyone has good qualities. I choose to focus on the good. Even those people I don't particularly like. Maybe I don't want to spend a lot of time with them, but even the most outwardly unsavory characters have things to find that are good. You may have to dig a little deeper, but they are there.
A while back, I started doing a ritual around that estranged family member. I don't perform it every day, but I do it often. Here's what I do: I imagine this person and each member of their family bathed in a beautiful, shimmery white light. I imagine them all happy and smiling and filled with joy. And, as I imagine each of their faces I say "I wish you enough". Inevitably, I end this visualization smiling. These are good people. They may not like me, and I may not want to spend time with them, but they are good people.
I wish them enough.
I love the kindness and simplicity of "I wish you enough". It's what I wish for you, too, my Wildflower. Enough. Enough air, water, protection, food, light, people who adore you, people you adore. Puppies, kitties, friends around the fire. Touch. Kindness. Gratitude. Travel. Good health. Mornings to sleep in. Energy to be present. Nights to revel. Money to pay bills. Enough to sustain, enough to light you up.
There's a crazy late winter storm blustering outside today. I had a friend visiting this weekend, she left a few hours ago. After she left, I sat in a cozy corner with a cup of tea and read a book. I worked out, made healthy meals, planned my move home, and ran the dog around the neighborhood. I have more than enough, and exactly enough. And everything. And I'm so very grateful.
I wish you enough.